Good morning girlfriend,
How are you today? Another bad day in love?
Tell it girl…. this blog is for you! Write your daily thoughts good or bad.
If you need support, guidance, advice from others who’ve been there, you can find it here. Tell us about it girlfriend. Let’s end the drama.
Some day you can come back here and help another with your support.
You’re not alone. I’ll be here daily. Write your thoughts in the comments section.
Peace in Love
XOOX
Good morning, It’s January 1st 2010!
Today I feel great! I’m hopeful for a terrific new year.
I’m excited about helping many people this year! Making many new friends and hopefully climbing out of this financial sink hole!
How do you feel?
Happy Holidays! REALLY?
During the holidays there are so many expectations.
Yeah, yeah…so I’ve heard, if I don’t expect I won’t get let down.
During the holidays you don’t have to have expectations, they’re already implied. This time of year is so focused everywhere you look, about spending time with loved ones and the giving and receiving of gifts.
How bout when you’re in love and your lover let’s you down in during this time of year.
For so many years I was truly disappointed and hurt at this time of year. It sucked in a major way. This time of year truly shed a SPOT light on my already bad relationship.
I remember one time with my son’s father, (I was about 26 my son about 6) he stayed out all night on the night before Christmas Eve.
Already upset, but not wanting to fight on this day, I tip-toed around getting him up so he could help with getting the things in the car so we could get on the road to both families’.
Well….. as he layed on the couch trying to catch up on sleep, I began nudging him to wake up when WTF!?????…..
I saw lipstick on his collar! No more tip-toeing around.
I asked him, “What the hell is this?” (quietly)
( LOL that’s funny) Then he lifted up his body to grab me around the collar of my shirt as he up and socked me in the gut? OMG!
Once I caught my breath and got over the shock, I knew I had to keep my cool.
As I write this memory, it’s almost as horrific to me now as it was then, 20 years ago.
I had to just suck it up for my son! I walked away in
shock. He’d never hit me, ever, out of 10 yrs together!
We got in the car and faked our Happy Holiday.
Okay so that story has so much more to tell but, bottom line, he got someone else pregnant and after six years back and forth, after Amelia was born, I was finally over it!
Here’s another fond memory of a Christmas “love” of mine.
Fast forward, I’m 38 now, he’s the same age, we’re together about 8 months, we’re going to my family’s for Christmas Eve. At that point, he says hadn’t bought me a gift. He says, “Let’s go find something for you now.”
I couldn’t believe what I was hearing, he had money, he had time. What he didn’t have was character. I knew I deserved better, but I wasn’t breaking up with him, I loved him and so it not be more upsetting than it already was, we went and GIRLLLL I wanted my gift! I had bought him so much! This wasn’t the way I knew I deserved to receive a gift from him who loved me, but there we went driving around Beverly Hills in and out of stores to try to find me a $100 gift.
Imagine……on our way to the family’s and going in and out of stores trying to hurry and find myself something from him.
What a joke! Yeah that one didn’t last, but not for my lack
of trying to change him! He left me!
But what I did get from him……. inspiration for my book.
Our experiences make us who we are. And yes we must be proud of who we are. But I’m here to tell you imagine your character if you have/make your life’s experiences filled with positive and happy ones.
Girlfriend, I so admire young girls who are spending their youth in becoming a woman of many character traits and enjoying life.
What was most important to me was “True Love”. I thought I had it, (so many times) just that, no one was perfect, so I put up with ALOT!
Trust me…..it’s not him it’s YOU!
Focus on what else will bring a smile to your face. At this holiday season find someone else to bring joy
to, by the smallest of gifts, being in a helping hand, or donation of time.
Take the focus off of you/him and I promise you’ll be rewarded with deeper feelings of joy that’ll create a happier you. This you anyone will be lucky to have and trust me you’ll have your pick!
Happy Holidays!
Peace in Love
Good morning again,
Another morning…..Honestly I feel many things. I’ve got to get my exercise. I know it’s important, I want to look good and feel good too. Why is it so hard??? Every night I say I’ll do it in the morning and when morning comes, I’m certain it’ll be better to happen at night. Vicious cycle! Meanwhile I love my fresh baked Nestle Toll House cookies, 2-3 nightly. I’m up earlier this morning so I can get it in and so far have not. The sun is out, the running shoes are in sight, the double jackets are good to go and even the radio. I don’t understand why I keep putting it off. I’m so attracted to all the fitness magazines and women who are in their forties with slammin bodies, so why not me? I’ve got so much going on but I know this needs to be an important part of my day too. It’s like paying yourself first. Why don’t we do that? Does anyone else have the same fight going on with themselves. I’ve read that cardio is important to potentially prevent Altzhiemer disease and dimentia. This is now my driving force. Shame to achieve my success and not remember it! Wish me luck!
Today I feel…….Content
Today I remember being consumed daily with the heartache and loneliness that was a result of my having chosen to love someone else more than myself. I accepted bad days in the name of love. “He” was who I wanted deep in the core of my being. I had already loved him so much and enjoyed many “good times” that I couldn’t bare the thought of not having him in my life. Consequently, the only option was to get him to understand how his actions or lack of action must change. Then and only then could we continue to be happy together.
Today I wonder why with all of the many choices there are in life I could have made to create joy in each day, why did I spend so many days filled with sorrow. Now, I have so many desires I want to fulfill, however small or insignificant they may be, my only problem is not enough hours in the day and will I live long enough to complete them all.
(One is to become a better writer.)
Choice not chance, determines destiny.
I hope you choose to be happy today.
Good morning girlfriends,
Today I feel motivated to make a difference in my own life. The possibilities are endless. I realize however, that it starts with a day at a time. For today, I am all about the right attitude to affect my future in a positive way.
“Life is like a mirror. If we frown at it, it frowns back. If we smile, it returns the greeting.” ~Unknown…but true.
How do you feel today? Care to share?
Good morning….almost over. I love my coffee. Today is Columbus day. I hope you enjoy your day. Today I feel excited to put a serious plan in action towards the marketing my book to any and all I can think of. This is where the consistency and hard work begins. I can not procrastinate or I will fail. Now that I put it out here, it should hold me more accountable.
Get ready girlfriends to SNAP OUT OF IT! and snap into you!
How do you feel today?
I always heard “love is blind”. Turns out for so many years, in my case it was deaf and dumb too! When you think you are in love and are having bad days in it, your heart can play tricks on the mind. The key is being able to recognize when your being tricked. Chances are if your thoughts are being consumed with the situation and not on you, probably a good sign to focus back onto you or in helping someone else. That will always bring joy back to your moments. Thank God I found the cure.
The old saying “The heart wants what the heart wants” I’m all for that until it’s not getting it. Then it doesn’t play fair….and if you let it, it will control the mind and soul too. Today I feel grateful to have a heart that doesn’t play tricks on my mind. You know what I mean? Have I said it well?
I am so happy you are here! I am passionate about the possibility of affecting change for women who are in too much agony in the name of love.
